So many relationships fail, but why?

One of the hardest realities for modern people to accept is just how different men and women actually are which in turn causes all sorts of unhealthy behavior. The only real way to have a healthy relationship is through a proper balance of masculine and feminine energy and the reality of the modern world is that men are becoming weaker and women stronger. Most modern relationships, though they often start out with the man leading eventually end up being lead by the woman. Men are inherently lazy and over time will hand over more and more control of their lives to women, especially if they are strong women. A smart woman who understands that having a stronger man is healthy will force him to be stronger and not allow him to slip but many modern women are encouraged to focus more on their own strength and leave men to figure it out, after all, they are men right?

Shouldn’t they be strong enough to do it on their own?

Unfortunately at the same time that society is teaching women to be more masculine, it is also teaching men that they need to be emotional and ultimately more feminine. The harsh reality is that most men don’t know how to be men anymore. Typically a man is at his strongest when he is single, he has to be in charge of his own life. Even the guys who are acting masculine are for the most part doing it by accident, its just not obvious to men like it is to women. The only way a man can ever intentionally begin to act masculine and not lose it is to understand female psychology on an esoteric level and even then its not always clear, because lets face it, men are spiritual idiots.

The overwhelming amount of weak and useless men has caused women to fear letting go of the reigns and for good reason. But the cold hard truth is that by doing this most women are not realizing the full potential of what nature has designed for mankind. If done right, the divine paring of man and woman can produce an unstoppable force, the famous proverb “Behind every great man is a great woman” could not be more true. One of the greatest virtues that women hold is their consistency, the maternal instinct to maintain life is a very part of their being, men on the other hand are naturally inconsistent yet creative. Every great invention, conquest or discovery was gifted to mankind by either a man or groups of men who were granted full access to their potential by women who kept them consistent, who forced them in one way or another to realize that part of their being.

In order for this dynamic to manifest a deep bond between both partners is a must. A woman’s love is tied to respect and a man’s love is tied to protection. If a woman does not have a deep degree of respect and admiration for the man and the man does not have the ability to protect the woman then the relationship is hopeless. Men tend to project their own attraction onto relationships and fail to see the level of attraction and respect that a woman actually feels for them. Just this week I was at a couples house and witnessed a situation where the relationship is nearly dead but the guy had no clue. His wife treated him like dirt, bossing him around like a puppet on a string, this is how women disrespect men, they walk on them. The problem is that us men want to make them happy so the obvious thing to do is do what they ask right?

No.

Most modern women have been completely spoiled by social media and feminism. I am not against feminism, it has made great strides in creating opportunities never seen in human history for women. The issue with feminism isn’t that is gives women opportunity, the issue is that modern feminism encourages women to not have respect for men as a whole and to believe that any issue that arises in a relationship is the man’s fault. Social media allows women to shop for a replacement instead of considering that their own actions also play a role in the relationship, it does in fact take two. Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of useless men out there who simply will not try to improve themselves, these men probably do need replaced. However, Gisele is leaving Tom Brady, I mean literally the .0001% of all alpha males is getting ditched, come on ladies, stop thinking you all deserve better.

Modern women don’t seem to understand that the only way a man wants them to show up is through a display of loyalty and respect, that’s literally all we want. We want women to look us in the eye with deep admiration, to show the world that they respect and admire us. When a woman stops showing respect to a man he will become a version of himself that only runs on steam. He will feel lesser, he will become self destructive, controlling, needy and will most certainly become something that a woman will not like. To us men, this is the most important part of being in a relationship, if a man has options and is not being treated with respect, it won’t be long before he starts engaging with women who do respect him.

The way to know if a woman no longer respects you can be tricky for a man to figure out, you will feel it every time she does something that is disrespectful but most men just let it happen for fear of making her mad. Keep in mind that women don’t treat you with disrespect on purpose, they do it instinctively, nature designed them to test your strength. When a woman has lost respect for a man in some of the more extreme cases she will start to open up around other men in public and push you to the side in conversation, she will become “bitchy” around you, she will criticize you and then cut you off when you try to respond, she will often say she is “tired” or “not feeling well” around you, she will complain about you not doing enough around the house, and most obviously she will avoid sex like the plague.

These are the issues women have to work on in order to create a healthy bond with a man, they need to work at preventing these feelings of contempt from slipping into their minds because the reality is that once the mystery and excitement wears off and they see a man fail once or twice, this threat is very real. A man on the other hand has to work at an entirely different set of goals in order to maintain a healthy masculine and feminine balance. The man has to prevent himself from being put in situations that cause the woman to lose respect.

The harsh reality that modern men often learn the hard way is that a woman doesn’t care about your feelings, the moment you show her your weakness she will start poking at it like a blob of jello. Women are always instinctively testing you, any fear, failure, or weakness you display will without a doubt be used against you. As a man you have to constantly be on your game, this doesn’t mean you need to be rich, it just means you need to constantly be making an effort towards improving yourself. Going to the gym, having hobbies, running a small side business, staying focused on the things you love and your purpose is what makes a woman feel safe and display respect.

As a man you have to constantly be managing both your passions and creating an environment for her feminine energy to expand. Both partners have to be working towards this goal in order for this reality to manifest, if he is being weak and lazy or she is being cold, disrespectful and distant it will never come to fruition. When divine energy starts to grow, both people will start to feel the benefits, it takes trust and understanding to create and very few couples will ever master it. The hard truth is that both people have to be willing to look at themselves extremely critically in order to correct their flaws. Nothing is ever perfect but if you can find a woman who understands how to fall into her feminine self comfortably and you as a man learn to stay in your masculine the relationship will become a powerhouse for love a success.