Feminine energy wants to flow, it wants open space to thrive, and freedom to have fun. What exactly does it mean to “open a woman up?” I am not talking about opening her legs or anything like that, come on now. However, it is absolutely necessary that she be opened up before she will be willing to be intimate with you at all. Opening a woman up means opening her heart, the source of her feminine spirit.

This is what allows a woman to feel safe, comfortable and ultimately happy since most women are more relaxed when they are in their feminine energy and stressed in their masculine. Understanding when a woman is in her masculine or her feminine and learning how to open her up and allow her to move into her natural energy is a game changer and once you truly master it, it is almost a guarantee that your relationship will be successful.

If you haven’t already read my post pertaining to masculine and feminine energy, I recommend reading it now. Roughly 80% of men will find themselves in a relationship with a woman who is in her masculine energy a majority of the time. How she gets there can be one of many things or a culmination of things but generally it is because she hasn’t felt the presence of masculine energy enough to open her up.

How do I know if she is in her masculine energy?

There are clear signs to look for that can let you know that a woman is in her masculine, the most obvious one is that she seems “bitchy” (sorry ladies but its true). You may start to feel like all of your interactions with her are negative, she complains that you watch too much TV, haven’t taken out the trash, etc. When a woman is in her masculine she will often feel like she is not in control of her life and always be trying to take care of responsibilities around the house to feel a sense of control, she will rarely show affection if at all and will make excuses about when she is not wiling to be intimate like, I’m tired, I don’t feel well, etc.

Why you need to keep a woman in her feminine energy.

The harsh reality about women is that it doesn’t matter how long they’ve been with you the thing that drives them most is their emotions, how they feel in the moment. If a woman is in her masculine around you most of the time its because she doesn’t trust or respect you. There are countless cases that I have seen where married women will go out on a girls trip and end up in the bathroom or a hotel with a man they perceive to be an “alpha” because her husband has become complacent. Granted, any woman who does this type of thing lacks integrity and should have been avoided to begin with.

The biggest mistake you will ever make as a man is to assume any woman is innocent. This doesn’t mean she will act on it, a good woman will fulfill her fantasies through romance novels and movies. If you are married, you have to be that guy she fell in love with all of the time and understand that “for better or worse, till death do us part” is not necessarily the case for women, they need you to be on your game. This isn’t a bash on women, they are far more lenient than you think, a woman with morals won’t cross the line but she will give you clear hints that she has options and that you are screwing up. It is often the mans fault that she ends up in these situations and as I’ve said many times, its not my job to change the nature of women, it is to teach men how women function and how to deal with it. Simply put, if you are not what peaks her interest, another man will be.

How to open her up early on.

When you are texting or on a date with a girl that you’re into, be the one to ask questions. She wants you to lead the conversation and allow her to be herself, she wants to learn about you slowly so be mysterious. Don’t give her straight forward answers, make her wonder who you are. Direct the questions she asks back on her, she wants to talk and it is your duty to steer the conversation in a direction that allows her the space to open up. By asking her questions you are opening her up, she will be excited and stimulated, this keeps her in her natural state, her feminine.

In a relationship.

Once you reach the relationship phase, this becomes a major focus that you will have to maintain for the rest of your life, assuming you want to spend that long with her. When you are dating a girl it is inevitable that she will see you react to a problem in your life, don’t allow her to see you as weak or negatively affected by it, call your bros and vent. Nothing will close a woman up and shift her into her masculine like a man who doesn’t know how to handle his problems. Unfortunately the majority of married men end up treating their wife as their therapist, a woman isn’t capable of being your guy friend so don’t put that burden on her. It is crucial that you always provide an atmosphere of safety, staying calm and light hearted around her, keeping her laughing and smiling while being playful and never complacent is the winning ticket.

You have to always remember that women are more concerned about how they feel in the moment, it doesn’t matter that you did everything right last week, if you just hurt her feelings or are acting weak that all goes out the window. If she is acting like something is wrong you need to get her to talk about it, women deal with their feelings by talking. She will continue to say “oh, nothing is wrong” but you have to keep asking until she does, eventually she will tell you. Once she starts telling you what is wrong you have to listen.

Not only do you need to listen but you need to affirm what she is saying, repeat back to her something she said to let her know you are fully present. You need to get it all out of her, keep saying “what else is wrong, is there anything else?” When she feels like she has been heard and understood she will let you know by telling you she feels better. As a man you can typically sense when something is wrong and that feeling will go away once she has fully opened up again and told you how she feels.

Conclusion

It is your job as the man in the relationship to provide this atmosphere for your wife or girlfriend, if you aren’t opening her up, another man will inevitably be doing it for you. Whether it’s her boss, her personal trainer, or one of the dudes following her on social media that is just waiting for the chance, if you are keeping her closed up around you she has no choice but to release that energy elsewhere. Don’t be alarmed if you see this happening to you, women lose attraction slowly and will stay with a man until her attraction totally dries up. Make no mistake that if you allow this to happen for several years the damage will be hard to repair and once you do start to correct the issue she is going to test you and the longer you have gone like this, the harder the tests will be to pass.